I Don't like internet marketing

It's been just over a week since I made big changes and I can say I am in a completely different place.

Here's my recipe:
  • No coffee (my only source of caffeine).
  • No alcohol.
  • Minimize crappy foods.
  • Continuing and increasing regular exercise.
  • Supplement with Omega 3, a multivitamin, and Vitamin D (sun in my case).
  • Reduced stress to a minimum through stepping away from my authority site for a bit.
  • Started a regimen of SAMe which is a natural anti depressant.
  • Meditating (almost) daily.
  • Focusing on a long loved hobby that will also force me to be social and more outgoing. Having to reach out and introduce myself to new people is good.
  • Accepting the fact that I ruminate (overthink) and focusing on catching it while it happens and instead counting my breaths to cool down.
  • Focusing on picking away at projects and todo lists day by day rather than stressing and pushing too hard just to get more done. Slow and steady wins the race in my book.
  • I'm focusing on improving self confidence by following the path I choose rather than letting external inputs sway my decisions, actions, and self worth.
Overall my mindset is much improved. I've actually swung back to overly happy today and I am actually regulating myself and trying to stay more level.

Getting over excited tends to lead to a million thoughts at once which tends to lead to overthinking which then leads to a crash of gone unchecked.

"The wise man reduces, and then reduces again."
 
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Vitamin D changed my outlook from melancholy to neutral by the next day. I had a friend try it and they agreed. SAMe is an option, also look into 5-HTP (precursor to serotonin), and Kava Kava extract in pills is great too, works wonders for social anxiety. But at the end of the day, those are helping you reach baseline. Don't seek a boost from them. The real issue for most of us (assuming it's not a catastrophic neurochemical issue, which can be very real) is the quadruplicate feedback loop, where we tend to ignore one part and it throws the whole system for a loop. Once you sort that out you don't need help attaining baseline because you start operating there again. But it can definitely help to work at the symptoms while you chop at the root.

Body, Mind, Emotions, Spirituality. Screw up one and they all go whacky. But for most people these days the problem arises from thinking, not knowing how to think, and becoming a habitually negative thinker (ruminating like you're talking about). Cognitive behavioral therapy can be administered by oneself to oneself very simply. Replace bad thoughts with good thoughts until the triggers for bad thoughts produce good thoughts, then the triggers stop having an effect. And stop letting emotions seem like a validation for bad thoughts, and don't let others shitty actions and beliefs be a justifier for bad thoughts.

Refuse to react altogether for at least 5 seconds. Just put that space in there, and you'll watch most of the negativity fall away. If the hook doesn't catch meat in that time period, there's a 99% chance it never will and you keep your psychological freedom. That's also what our emotions do to our minds and why you see people appealing to emotion instead of logic (marketing and propaganda).

We're inundated by all of this nonsense from outside sources, and even if we build a shield against it, we still sabotage ourselves from within without discipline. The least enjoyable thing, and most important thing, is to keep a watchful eye on and police our own thoughts and stop pretending there's an external locus of control when it comes to our own thoughts.
 
animalstyle said:
It's been just over a week since I made big changes and I can say I am in a completely different place.

Here's my recipe:
  • No coffee (my only source of caffeine).
  • No alcohol.
  • Minimize crappy foods.
  • Continuing and increasing regular exercise.
  • Supplement with Omega 3, a multivitamin, and Vitamin D (sun in my case).
  • Reduced stress to a minimum through stepping away from my authority site for a bit.
  • Started a regimen of SAMe which is a natural anti depressant.
  • Meditating (almost) daily.
  • Focusing on a long loved hobby that will also force me to be social and more outgoing. Having to reach out and introduce myself to new people is good.
  • Accepting the fact that I ruminate (overthink) and focusing on catching it while it happens and instead counting my breaths to cool down.
  • Focusing on picking away at projects and todo lists day by day rather than stressing and pushing too hard just to get more done. Slow and steady wins the race in my book.
  • I'm focusing on improving self confidence by following the path I choose rather than letting external inputs sway my decisions, actions, and self worth.
Overall my mindset is much improved. I've actually swung back to overly happy today and I am actually regulating myself and trying to stay more level.

Getting over excited tends to lead to a million thoughts at once which tends to lead to overthinking which then leads to a crash of gone unchecked.

"The wise man reduces, and then reduces again."
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This is the "asset that matters" you should be working on... Documenting, solving your own problems, making the path easier for others, and harnessing the struggle. You are literally sitting on a goldmine...
 
Real good benefits of vitamin D starting at 4000-5000 iu daily. Some people go up to 10000 iu, including myself. The only thing to keep in mind while going up to this level is vitamin A supply. First, it hast to be retinol, not precursors (beta-carotene). Second, it could be easily supplied by the diet IF it's reach in animal fats and organs (liver), and if not then there is some counting to be done and supplementation (best with cod liver oil)..
 
animalstyle said:
I am putting away the self pressure to earn a shitload of money and exit. If there was one main driving force behind my actions and choices for the last 1-2 years, its been this. A combination of reading the millionaire fastlane, watching videos all over the net, listening to others and similar basically put the idea that this is what I HAD to do in order to be happy/successful etc. But it was always applying someone else's vision to my life. While it might be valid for someone else, I've solidly proved that this is a BAD path for me. I am sure I could self medicate myself into a zombie and spend the next 3 years grinding away and make something impressive happen, but what would be left on the other side?

Its finally time I get honest with myself and realize that being happy and playful and having fun while I work on something I believe in will take me much further, and I'll enjoy the ride
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Kudos for this mate. Definitely need to find what makes you happy so you can live a more fulfilling life.

I still question some (not everyone but some) peoples' claims to have everything they portray to have. We've all most likely been caught up in seeing other people's stories but, the truth is, a lot of times we're only getting a part of the story or exaggeration of the truth.

But like you said, even if you do achieve this after 3 years of grinding non-stop, will you be happy? What toll would it have taken on your body, mind and spirit in those 3 years?

Good luck to you!
 
CCarter said:
The problem is a lot of people get into this for the wrong reason. They either think they'll get rich quick or make cash fast and move on. Then they concentrate on the lowest common denominator SEO, Google traffic, and Adsense to generate money. Both standalone are not business models, they are mediums within their respective interests, but they both are still the lowest common denominator.
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Would you consider Amazon Associates part of that lowest common denominator?
 
built said:
Would you consider Amazon Associates part of that lowest common denominator?
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If anyone in the world can do it (sign up and start promoting to get commissions), meaning it has the lowest barrier to entry then yeah.

By doing direct deals with manufacturers, service providers, or creating your own product/service, you have opportunities not available to the Average Joe; however that means more hard work coming your way with that higher barrier to entry - but also more profits.
 
CCarter said:
If anyone in the world can do it (sign up and start promoting to get commissions), meaning it has the lowest barrier to entry then yeah.

By doing direct deals with manufacturers, service providers, or creating your own product/service, you have opportunities not available to the Average Joe; however that means more hard work coming your way with that higher barrier to entry - but also more profits.
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I see, that makes more sense now. Something I've been thinking as lot about as well, why put in the effort to drive traffic and earn pennies. When if you changed up to the product/service would probably make a million times more.
 
@eliquid Thanks for the bump.
Yes, doing much better now. That recipe I posted at the top of the page combined with stopping everything and then slowly adding things back that FELT right was the key. I came out of the depressive bout in a much better spot and have stayed out of it since then.

A combination of being realistic, true to myself, and trading a bit of logical thinking for a bit of gut direction has helped massively.

Long story, I am still out there building, heading in a similar direction, just on a different route there with a better mindset.
 
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